Tellafeministthankyou to Erin Pizzey, for the first domestic violence shelter. Unfortunately she would be attacked for wanting to help men.
Tellafeministthankyou For making sure that VAWA only protects women, as gendered legislation attacks the rights of men to equal protection.
Tellafeministthankyou For getting FGM outlawed in the US. But Ignoring the more common Male Genital Mutilation against baby boys.
#ineedmasculism Because I could not identify the abusive relationship I was in, because I did not know men could even be abused. #ineedmasculism Because my sexual assault was dismissed as “You probably enjoyed it man.” and “A women could never do that to you.” #Ineedmasculism Because my college is divided 70f/30m. Nationally it’s nearly 60/40. But There is no outcry to help young men. #Ineedmasculism Because I know too many good, loving fathers, denied access to their children. #Ineedmasculism Because my right to bodily integrity that Feminists clamor on about for pregnant women, was taken from me hours after birth. #INeedMasculismBecause Prostate cancer which as frequent and dangerous as breast cancer gets low funding #INeedMasculismBecause I am a nurse, not a male nurse #INeedMasculism Because I turned a girl’s advances, and she had to announce to everyone at the party her thoughts on my sexuality.
Most of all, I need Masculism, because Feminists took a chance for men to air their complaints, and once again told them to shut up and mocked them.
When men come to the table with their issues, if your standard response is to mock and harass them. Don’t be surprised when they turn against your movement.
In response to Hugo Schwyzer’s post supporting this page
Him saying “Yes Yes Yes.”
No no no. She isn’t working for free, she made a deal to write a whole series on sexism in video games. Starting from a flawed premise she raised money off of the actual sexism she faced, and is using that as her new focus and avoiding the topic she originally was “paid” for.
While the attacks against her were unwarranted, and good examples of the harassment people can face online. (Especially when attacking a community such as the gaming community)
Questioning why she has an “obligation” to do something she got paid $160,000 to do (and has not produced any work since the June 16th closing date, nearly 6 months) is dumb. You tell the world to give you money to do something, you’d better do it.
People are upset that they paid to see this expose in regards to sexism in story telling, instead they’ve found they were defrauded and treated unprofessionally by someone claiming to be exactly that, and are watching the person they had supported, turn away from their promises.
On top of that, the second article I linked clearly dismantles Sarkeesian’s shoddy work and strawman arguments. While there is certainly Sexism in game design, She has shown that she is hardly qualified or focusing on even the right areas.
What it is like being a male victim of domestic violence.
Have you ever been scared for your life?
Genuinely scared, not just worried or concerned that your life was truly in danger?
Ever really had the adrenaline flowing and the walls closing in.
Have you been in a situation where you have to defend yourself to avoid bodily harm? How would you feel if everyone in society told you that you can’t defend yourself?
That if you dared to raise your hand in self defense, that you should be locked away as an abuser.
If someone picked a fight with you in public, most people would tell you to defend yourself. If you’re a Women society expects that other people will leap up to help you defend yourself assuming a man is the one attacking you. However, what about when the tables are turned?
What do we do as a society when the man is the one being attacked?
The answer, is nothing.
What do we expect him to do in return? Apparently nothing too, except to take it. People don’t step in, people don’t help. I guarantee that as soon as he lashed back, people would be stepping in to defend her.
Let me tell you what it’s like from a first person perspective. As a man you are told all of your life that you are dangerous, because of your size and strength. That you can hurt others and have to be careful with yourself. One day you get a girlfriend, and things are working out well. You eventually move in together and suddenly things change. She starts slapping you on the back of the head when you don’t do what she wants. When she’s upset she hits you on the back and shoulders. She’ll corner you on the bed and tell you that you “can’t leave” and that she “needs you there.” While hitting you.
This hurts, it hurts more than anything. This person you trust is abusing you, and you CANNOT DEFEND YOURSELF. Not because you are unable, but because society will persecute you for it. If I had hit her back even once, she would have been left with a bruise or a mark, and called the police to have me arrested. What’s scarier, is that I could not simply call the police. Her assaults did not always leave marks, and even if they had she could have claimed I attacked her first.
Reading these stories about domestic violence triggers victims. It creates a very emotional response where your personal situation is being attacked, and what happened to you is being attacked. You can’t seperate the two. It’s permanantly a part of your life and forever a part of who you are.
Now, Imagine you’re in my position. You read up on news stories about domestic violence where the man is being charged, and dragged through society. However the police report and the “victim” both state that the woman was the one hitting first. That the violence started by HER HAND. However if you dare to point out that the violence was reciprical. You’re a horrible person who hates women. All you are really tryign to do, is say “Hey, let’s not ignore the fact he was being hit too regardless of the outcome.”
No, I care about facts. I care about the fact that the MAJORITY of domestic violence is RECIPRICAL. Where both spouces are attacking eachother. I care about the fact we are ignoring what has been established as the truth in this case by our legal system, in favor of one where where we only look at the “outcome” of a fight. (Here’s a clue, unless there is a weapon involved if a man fights back, he usually “Wins” the fight)It’s inexcusable for ANY person to hit ANYONE. However we set a scary standard when if we say she hit first it’s “Victim Blaming” and if he hit first it’s “Battered Women Syndrome.”